you can change…………………if you want to………………you have to really want to……..forget that it will be challenging……….you should know that going in……….you have to be clear what your reasons are for seeking change…….precise………or you won’t do it…….you just won’t…………………..how will the change help me……..how will the change help others………………will it bring me closer to my desired relationship with God…………………because if it doesn’t…………………..no need to continue…………..that’s the final criteria for everything…………………….everything……………is it moving me closer or away from God………………………..you can change if you want to, but you won’t get there if you aren’t clear about your motivation