he lived………………he laughed……………………he cried ……………………he died.

those eight words could be said of every man or woman who has every breathed on this planet

i can hear it already, takes a certain ass determined to disrupt the flow and idea of the conversation to interject something like what about a child born with a defect,…okay i can think like that ass because I can be that ass,…………….that is not what we are talking about, if you persist go away

the important thing to remember at this point is that so often we forget how all of us do certain things

he lived- you know worked, ate, took up a parking spot, paid taxes, hated November,had a dog, had a cat, had a cat and a dog, had no pets, had children instead, wished he had stuck with pets……….etc

he laughed –  a lot at himself, a requirement that avoids many sessions on the couch, about life, about death, about his friends, about the country, about politicians, about his relationships, about God with God, about God without God……………….etc

he cried – knowing why, not having a clue, about the dog or cat that died, about the dog or cat that wouldn’t die, about his life………some in sadness, much of joy, about his family, friends, his faith and his lack of faith………..etc

he died – how he died is determined by how he lived……………………forget about cancer, or any of the thousand ailments that may beset us………………how he or she lived provides the necessary tools to leave gracefully…………..you may leave with two legs or one, two arms or one, two eyes or one, two ears or one, one brain or none………….how one lives will overshadow how we die

so there it is

when you hate, you hate someone more like you than knot, knot is purposely spelled this way you figure it out

when you love, you love someone more like you than knot

so as you live your life remember the basics…………the other stuff makes us unique

but we all do much of the same thing

we live………………..we laugh……………………….we cry………………………….we die