my dog keeps getting older and i watch as she goes through the advanced stages of aging……………………………………………………..

 

you know many times i come into a situation blind and i think well why wasn’t i notified, given a heads-up and prepared for this

and i stop and little by little tidbits of information come back as preliminary info that was given as prep but was not viewed in that way…………………….my fault, which is usually the case, rarely, i hate this confession, is their anyone to blame but me, i missed it

so i’m getting a taste of what it’s going to be like dealing with Jess, my mother, my wife, notice i saved me for last, myself

i am in the process of creating those parts and pieces that are coming down the road, and hey, i better take notice of them

suggestions for dealing with old people like me:

• smile a lot that makes them feel like you give a shit
• speak loud and slow
• don’t make any quick moves, you might get pepper sprayed
• let them change the subject, which sometimes will change every few seconds and others times drag on for hours
• don’t bring up people who are sick, dying or facing surgery, they will do that
• never, never argue with an advanced aged person, if they are hitting on all cylinders that day they will cream you with things you had forgotten and you thought they had as well
• don’t pretend to listen or pay attention, somehow they know and will call you on it and that will ruin the visit
• memory is a funny thing, don’t assume that just because you have forgotten certain things, they have too
• money is a subject to be avoided like the plague, remember this world is going to hell in a hand-basket and someone is always trying to get in their pocket
• the government has singled them out for higher electric bills, water bills,prescriptions, doctor visits and car repairs……..don’t even go there
• don’t make the mistake of thinking that a topic that was acceptable today, will be okay tomorrow, doesn’t work like that
• give me, them, the benefit of a doubt, or rather doubts, the fact that we take food to bed isn’t indicative of the ”last supper” more like we might need a little snack during the middle of the night and the kitchen is wayyyyyyyy over there, you know

what i am trying to say, this isn’t easy for Jess or anyone ”growing out of time” so before you are ready to put them in the ground, remember when they go they take a part of you with them…………………………..and often we don’t figure that out until they are gone

put the shovel down they will let you know when they are ready

Jess honey, the backyard is this way………………………..